people who get to know the limit,i think,must have experienced what it is to overdo a thing.the limit can be found after one has gone to extremes.if you haven’t had such experience,if you have never made mistakes,never cherished ideas of rebellion,you will never find it.if you behave too well,neither overdo anything nor make any mistakes,you will naturally fall to find what’s most suitable to you.
The offspring of American-chinese follow the same course of life almost without exception.when they go to middle school they resent the Chinese way of education their parents have given them and look down upon their peers with the same Chinese background.during this period their parents are most nervous,quite at a loss,and then examine themselves of their failure in educating their children.